Illusion and reality

Athol explains why it's important to believe in at least the potential for the best in others:

The trouble is, a lot of the Red Pill approach to life assumes a near telepathic assumption of negative intentions in others. Is it often right? Sure it is. But it’s almost impossible to live happily if you are endlessly paranoid and jaded about the intentions of everyone around you. If every woman is a hot mess of whorish desire and nothing else but a lying cunt of a hamster justifying her Alpha male sperm seeking… well it gets tiring being on edge after a while. Likewise every man is a third wheel seeking an opportunity and plots behind your back, pumping you for information about your woman, seeking to make a run into the endzone the moment you blink too slowly.

You can't maintain a combat edge indefinitely.  Eventually, you break down.  At some point, you have to take a few chosen others on trust, men and women.  People do mature, people do change, people do surmount their baser instincts.

I don't recommend choosing illusion over reality, but it is also important to understand that the potential for doing evil is not the same as actually committing it.  And experiencing temptation is not action.

Knowing that a woman does not belong on a pedestal is not synonymous with believing that she dwells in a sewer.  The fact of female fallibility should not lead one to assume that they are subhuman, and the fact of sexual inequality should not be confused with male infallibility.

Entitlement personified

A fascinating glimpse into entitlement-driven female logic:

My boyfriend owns a company that makes iPhone apps. Last year he made more than $650,000, just in salary. This year he’ll probably double that. I, on the other hand, have a struggling business that I am working hard to grow. The problem is, my boyfriend spends tons of money on his projects, his charities, his investments,his socializing—and lots of time talking about the expensive things he wants to buy for himself. Isn’t this a bit insensitive? I’m laboring so hard! I know I’ll be successful, but I’m not able to go out and shop—never mind splurge—at this point in my life.

We’ve been together three years, and he is generous in that he buys me dinners and has paid for one vacation to France. But he doesn’t otherwise offer to share his success. Heaven knows he’s worked hard for it, but am I not entitled to some of his dough, since we’ve been together three years?

It's bad enough that the legal regime that has enshrined the Female Imperative into law believes that the mere sanction of a state marriage is sufficient to entitle a woman to a significant percentage of a man's wealth, even though it no longer entitles a man to a woman's body.  But now that the more astute men are increasingly avoiding the legal risks imposed by marriage, we can see where the Female Imperative will take us next: the mere passage of time in the close proximity of a man is to be deemed sufficient justification for resource transfer.

This is why no successful man should ever permit a woman to move in with him unless he has decided to take the risks inherent in marriage.  As the letter writer makes clear, a woman who is involved with a man is going to feel she possesses an intrinsic claim on his wealth, regardless of the exact nature of that involvement.

And notice the advice-giver's response: "I’m all for a girl using every weapon at her disposal to get what she wants."

The interesting thing is: does she believe in equality?  What is the difference between her position and the idea that a man should use every weapon at his disposal, including superior strength and size, to get what he wants?

MMSL tl:dr version

Athol makes it short and sweet:

(1)  You can’t fix Batshit Crazy. Only medicate it, or run.

(2)  If you are being beaten by your spouse, or they are smashing up the house… film it and dial 911.

(3)  You aren’t a doctor. Don’t start, stop, change, or throw away any medication.

(4)  If there was no sex at the beginning of the marriage… don’t expect any now.

(5)  If you take a cheater back, do it only once. Otherwise you’ll just be cheated on forever.

 I laughed, I did.  Read the rest there.