Alpha Mail: Game and the self-denying woman

Thalia explains why men should prefer butterballs:

The most feminine attributes, softness and sweetness, are not found in hard-toned bodies. Women who have single digit body-fat percentage are not nurturing by nature. They are tautly disciplined and their first response is "No!"

It seems kind of silly that you Gamesters go on and on about feminine natures, and the way women "should be," but the physical profile you select is exceptionally high in testosterone! Taking normal distributions into account, those rail thin women could have more testosterone than many men! You guys got it SOOOOOOO backwards.

First, let me admit that Thalia is absolutely right with regards to her initial observation. Gym bunnies with their slender, beautiful bodies are quite often literal hard-asses. They tend to be rigid, disciplined, less submissive and more difficult than the average woman. And it's true, they are without question the champions of the instinctive "No!" This instinct to deny others is a necessary consequence of their ability to deny themselves.

But where Thalia's logic runs off the rails is that this makes them any less desirable. Her erroneous assumption that "softness and sweetness" trumps "slender, hot body" for men. This isn't to say that men don't value softness and sweetness, we absolutely do. Ideally, men would prefer a beautiful hardbody with a sweet disposition. But if a man faces a choice between a soft, sweet warpig and a slender, hot, pain-in-the-ass, well, the latter is going to win every single time. And the higher status the man, the more confident he is of meeting the challenge presented.

This is, in fact, precisely where Game comes into play. It is Game that permits a man to increase his sexual market value as well and gives him the tools to prevent the slender, hot, pain-in-the-ass from freely indulging in her waspish instincts and help her stay in touch with her softer, sweeter, more feminine side.

When John Adams wrote about "the tyranny of the petticoat" back in the late eighteenth century, he was referring directly to the female tendency to rule with cruelty. Game permits a man to reject the female rule to which so many men now find themselves subject, and therefore allows him to pursue the more dangerous, more desirable women without fear.