I am not married, so maybe I’m just being a Neanderthal on this topic, but is it not possible to express gratefulness for a spouse without TOTALLY PROSTRATING ONESELF AT HER FEET?Reading something like this, my first reaction is to think that his wife will be banging the UPS guy before their third anniversary, at which point Mr. Zacharias will conclude that he must not have abased himself sufficiently.
More importantly, does Nathan Zacharias believe that his wife would write a similar article expressing the following?
- how unworthy she is of her husband
- that she has no idea why he married her
- that their one-year anniversary is a miracle
- that she deserves him even less than she did at the time of their wedding
- how ugly she sees herself when she looks at herself from his point of view
- that she often has to apologize to him for things she did or didn’t do
Sometimes I wonder what Bible my fellow Christians are reading. Jesus may not have strutted around Jerusalem declaring, "yo, I'm the son of God, bitches", but except for the night in the garden of Gethsemane, he wasn't crawling on his belly declaring he wasn't worthy either. In fact, he pulled a pretty seriously Alpha move when he visited Mary and Martha and declared: "You will always have the poor among you, but you will not always have me.”
There is a massive difference between humility and self-abasement, especially for the sort of public self-abasement of this variety. After all, what does it say about your wife and her judgment if you insist that she so stupid as to shackle herself to the complete loser you claim to be? It's hard enough for familiarity not to breed contempt within a marriage. There is nothing to be gained by actively attempting to feed it.
And if your first anniversary genuinely required a miracle, then one has to assume there won't be a second one. It's not as if Jesus Christ followed up the feeding of the five thousand with the breakfasting of the five thousand the next morning.
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