When women play the sex card

Some years ago, a woman by the name of Theresa Nielsen Hayden declared the following about a certain male individual.

"Going through Vox Day's comments here is like reading erotica written by someone who -- well, in the immortal words of Xander Harris, "You've never had any tiny bit of sex, have you?" It's really, really obvious that VD is not acquainted with actual women. I don't just mean sexual relations. I mean he's had little or no social interaction of any sort....  It's pretty clear that VD fears and dislikes women, and that his gender theories are a back-formation. It seems perfectly appropriate that he's a fan of that patently misogynistic suspected female impersonator, Ann Coulter."

Now, keep in mind, the picture above is of the woman who said this.  Moreover, she said that about a man who was not only an athlete from a wealthy, attractive family, but a founding member of an award-winning rock band with three Billboard-charting dance hits.  How does this make any sense at all?  Why would a grotesque toad like Nielsen Hayden ever claim something so patently ridiculous?

The reason is that most men are insecure about their sexual appeal.  Women know this and they instinctively attempt to play on that insecurity in an attempt to gain the upper hand.  This is fairly automatic for them, no matter how low they are on the totem pole, because they are accustomed to thinking of themselves as the pursued, ergo, the more desirable, even if this has absolutely no possible relationship to the actual male-female interaction involved.

And consider: if an obese troll like this is going to attempt to play the sex card with a man who wouldn't dream of touching her with his worst enemy's 10 foot-pole in his scariest nightmare, what will a normal girl who is actually in your league going to do?  The answer is to maintain frame.  Ideally, your response to a woman playing the sex card should be to respond exactly as if the girl looks like Ms Nielsen Hayden, with a mixture of amusement and genuine horror.

We apologize in advance for any nightmares this post may inadvertently inspire.